‘Relationship Mastery 101’ is much easier than you may think. It simply requires you to realize just how powerful you are in co-creating, not only everything you see in your life, but each and every person who affects your reality.

 So, choose to be in your power now in this arena of reducing relationship stress. Be willing and able to recognize your attachment to any form of suffering that perpetuates relationships that are anything less than deeply fulfilling and nurturing for you.

 Wouldn’t you like to have a relationship that is joyful and playful? Do you want a significant other in your life who makes you happy consistently? Or can you be satisfied with just the little morsels someone tosses your way every now and then?

 Would you like to be happily in love? Or is the addiction to unrequited love more familiar, more comfortable, and therefore, in some twisted way, more desirable? Don’t allow yourself to become so complacent in dealing with relationship stress to the point you begin to think it’s the acceptable norm.

 If you would choose to be happily in love, with life, with yourself, with a significant other, there are choices you can make to actively take part in creating a life that doesn’t require an alarm clock in the morning!

 The biggest mistake people make is to assume, “This is just what always happens to me.” That perspective takes you out of your power and makes you a victim. It doesn’t have to be that way.

 You can eliminate the need to repetitively suffer through more of what you don’t want. The only reason to go through all that again is so you can get really clear about what you don’t want.

 There is a short cut. You can take charge of your relationship arena. You can reduce relationship stress. Here’s how:


1. Consciously create a list of all the qualities you love and adore about your significant other. If you don’t have a significant other, choose two or three things about several of your closest friends that makes you feel especially appreciative about each one and why you like having them in your life.

2. What is it about your significant other that causes you the most grief? Is it that they are unavailable, physically? Emotionally? Perhaps both? For the moment, really focus on those qualities that make you less than happy.

3. Once you're aware of what doesn’t work for you, examine each quality. If you had the power to choose an alternative, what would it look like? How would it feel? By becoming super clear about what you don’t want, you'll become even clearer about what you do want.

4. Can you re-arrange your thought process to allow for all the good that surrounds you to come together now? List all the qualities you've uncovered in working through numbers 1 and 3. At the top of it write something like, “I am now attracting a significant other who is…”

5. Experience your wish list regularly. Simply reading it will help, but if you want to add power to it, you’ve got to really feel it. For the moment, forget where you are and use all your imagination to feel deeply grateful for already having this experience in your life. When you can feel this without a doubt, you'll know this experience is on its way to you. Chances are it will be even more glorious than anything you’ve imagined!

 So here’s the final question of the day: “If I can really have all that love and joyfulness in my life, what part of me chooses, or even prefers, to settle for this situation/person that causes me so much grief?”

 Listen for the answer, and then let it go.

 When it comes to manifesting healthier relationships, better health, less stress, or financial freedom, the same principles apply, because they’re all just different forms of energy in your life.

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